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Ep19 – Dear Debt – Mental Health and Money with Melanie Lockert

Episode #19 – Dear Debt – Mental Health and Money with Melanie Lockert




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Bio: Melanie Lockert started Dear Debt in 2013 as an accountability project for her debt payoff process. It grew into a community of dreamers, hustlers, debt fighters, minimalists, and frugal lovin’ adventurers to share thoughts, company, and Dear Debt Letters. She is an inspiration to many facing depression and other obstacles in dealing with debt and putting it in its place.

Show Description: We all know depression and mental illness are very hard to deal with and can create limitations in how we feel, think, and act. Today Melanie and I talk about some of the actions to take, and ways to think and encourage ourselves in dealing with depression and still making progress financially.

ShowNotes:

  • 1:27 – Emotions and Role Models
  • 3:12 – Fighting depression while still making progress financially
  • 5:00 – Dear Debt Letters – What are they?
  • 7:38 – Power of Writing Things Down
  • 9:45 – Mental Buckets
  • 10:50 –  Mentors and Coaches and Therapists: Outside Help Is For EVERYONE
  • 15:31 – Melanie’s story, hard months and easy months and honesty
  • 18:00 – Debt Fatigue: Define yourself
  • 21:34 – Vulnerability is strength
  • 23:30 – Melanie’s Maxim, Blog, and Book

Money Maxim

“A Closed Mouth Does Not Get Fed” – Melanie Lockert

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“You are not your debt” – Melanie Lockert

“The Faintest Ink Is More Powerful Than The Strongest Mind” – Jacob (Ancient Chinese Proverb)

“It’s important to tell the people that you love what you’re going through” – Melanie Lockert

Action Items

Forgive yourself, and recognize that you are not your debt.

Write your Dear Debt Letter! Read some on Melanie’s Blog, get the emotions out!

Organize some of your emotions into Mental Buckets.

Get your therapist! College grad program, mentor, mastermind, psychologist, roommate. Have people you regularly discuss and get help from.

Pattern: Recognize issue, make a plan, get a partner, get a community, constant honesty.

Mentions

Carl Richards Behavior Gap

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Contacts and Links from the Show

http://deardebt.com

Melanies Book: Dear Debt

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Episode 18: NewlyWed Finances – With Dave Jacobson of CoachConnections

Episode #18 –  Newlywed Finances & Money Coaches – With Dave Jacobson



 

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Dave Jacobson HeadshotBio: Dave Jacobson, certified financial coach, enhances lives by empowering others to make better decisions with money that lead them to a financially fit lifestyle.  He has helped hundreds of individuals find financial peace through personal coaching and financial wellness seminars that focus on building and implementing a practical financial plan.

Coach Dave was nationally recognized for his personal money management expertise by The Lampo Group (Dave Ramsey’s organization) and leads Counselor Connections, a best practices group of top financial coaches from across the nation.

Show Description: Dave and I talk about marriage, finances, and some important things to do before you say “I Do”. We avoid the budgets and the numbers and focus on the thinking, actions, and understanding your partner and helping them understand you. We also delve into the value of a coach regardless of who you are, and what your

ShowNotes:

  • 0:39 – Dave Shares his history in Financial Counseling and about his personal life
  • 3:55 – Marriage: No One Tool
  • 5:15 – Communication and Unification
  • 8:00 – A mediator and guide – What a Coach is for
  • 8:40 – Areas of a healthy NewlyWed financial discussion
  • 10:50 – A Unified Vision
  • 14:15 – Dave’s Money Maxim
  • 16:56 – Starting To Talk, “As You Create:
  • 19:11 – Money is Emotional
  • 20:09 – What a Financial Coach is, Why Everyone Can Utilize One
  • 24:19 – Connecting with Coach Connections.

Money Maxim

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Your What will only be as strong as your Why.  (This means that their passion leads, not the numbers). -Dave Jacobson

 

Contacts and Links from the Show

Here is the link to the free Guide  Free Newlywed Checklist from Coach Connections.

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Ep17: Money and Mental Illness – Abigail Perry

Episode #17: Frugality for Depressives – Managing Money When Dealing With Mental Illness – With Abigail Perry



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Abigail Perry HeadShotBio: After a rare neurological disease nearly killed her at 19, Abigail was left with chronic fatigue and depression. She shares her story and encourages others. Abigail believes that “Everyone has limitations, no matter what your health and income levels look like. Most of us have a near-infinite number of things we should do (or want to do), but an all-too-finite amount of time and energy. Every day we make mistakes or take shortcuts due to overcommitment, stress, health issues or simple exhaustion. That’s not a flaw or personal failing. It’s normal. It’s human. The sooner we can accept this, the sooner we can find peace and balance in our lives.”

Show Description: Abigail and I discuss the influence of depression and mental illness on finance, and some practical ways to cope with finances while not giving up completely. We discuss comfort spending, creating inertia, and automation in making finances easier. Many many more powerful skills and ideas are found in her book!

ShowNotes:

  • 0:53 – About Abigail
  • 2:10 – Budgets and Mental Illness
  • 5:15 – Finding What Works For You
  • 6:50 – Online Bloggers: Only Sharing Success. “Everyone has Foibles”
  • 7:40 – The Foibles: Breathing Room, and “The Dad Syndrome”
  • 11:11 – Comfort Spending: Making Room For Hard Moments (and Weeks)
  • 13:40 – Building Enjoyment: Planning and The Power of Anticipation
  • 17:21 – What You REALLY Want – A Reason For Spending Habits
  • 20:40 – A Flurry of Powerful Habits from Abigail for Depression and Finances
  • 23:10 – Abigail’s Money Maxim

Money Maxim

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“Celebrate Every Win, Big or Small, It’s Still Progress” – Abigail Perry

Action Items

Plan fun events 3-4 weeks out. Plan a vacation next fall, or next summer. Having an exciting event to build up to can keep you focused, empowered, and committed to a fun thing you can talk about, invite friends to, and help fight depression with. Plans create excitement, and a goal to work towards.

Realize when you’re expecting too much. And question why. Who told you that that expectation is required? Is it yourself? Or someone else who’s appearing perfect?

Create Buffer room in your Budget! If your spending plan doesn’t have extra money, or “cash nuances” or “fun money” you’re doing it wrong!

Share Your Wins! Share on FinancialGinger or In the Comments Below!

Contacts and Links from the Show

Buy Frugality for Depressives from Abigail Perry on Amazon! or from Barnes & Noble
I Pick Up Pennies, Abigails Blog. Her Facebook Group, Pinterest, and Twitter

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