domestic violence

WAYS
TO AMELIORATING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN

INTRODUCTION

The
United Nation defines violence against women as any act of gender based
violence that results in or is likely to result in physical, sexual, or mental
harm or suffering to women including threat of such acts, coercion or arbitrary
deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or private life.
Ameliorating domestic violence against women us going to the collaboration of
everyone, starting from the individual level, to the community, the religious
setting and the government everyone has a role to play to solve this problem. .

STEPS
TO BE TAKEN TO AMELIORATE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Although
there is no clear cut solution to ameliorate domestic violence against women in
Nigeria below are some ways it can be reduce:

Sensitization
at the individual level

Recognize
your situation: individual who are facing domestic violence should admit to themselves
that they are being abused and are in abusive relationship or marriage. Some women
don’t even accept that they are in an abusive relationship, they feel when
their husband abuses that it’s their fault and they must have done something
wrong to deserve it. So it is very necessary victims to accept that they are in
an abusive relationship. Victims to be made aware to know the signs of when
they are in an abusive relationship

Break
the silence and speak up:  women who are
in an abusive relationship should learn to speak up and not keep quiet and
continue until they probably lose the life. Its only when victims are able to
speak up that they can be helped. When the society does not know that you are
going through domestic violence they cannot help you. They need to be sensitize
that they are laws that protects them against domestic violence.

Sensitization
at the community level

The
society domestic violence is not right or acceptable under any circumstance. We
also need change the way viewed marriage the woman is always to balme for thev
failure or the suucee of am marriage and so much pressure is place on her to
ensure the success of her marriage that even when she is being abused in her
marriage she does not want to leave or speak out so as to avoid stigmatization.
Most men knowing that their wives would not want to leave the marriage so to be
term a failure will use the opportunity to continue to abuse the woman. A man
should not encourage that he is allowed to beat up his wife if she does
something wrong. We should understand that ‘it takes two to tango’ especially
in marriage.

Sensitization
at the Religious level

“Many
view divorcees with contempt, in religious circles, some believe that divorcees
will not make heaven and should not aspire to any office in society or in
religious settings, the circumstances of the divorce notwithstanding.” Christian
should be made to understand domestic violence is anti-scriptural because
Christ model for family is  love for one
another and love can never be displayed through domestic violence. We should
not wait until people lose their lives before we take action. A Christian
should be able to seek away from a marriage where there is threat of life

 Role of the Government to help curb domestic
violence

Implementation
of laws against domestic violence: On May 25th 2015 the Violence against Persons
(Prohibition) act was signed into law to help curb violence. The police need to
be proper trained to handle case of domestic violence. They should find way of
empowering women to be economically independent. Firm punishment should be
given to domestic violence offenders. There is need for institutional or organizational
support to help women of domestic violence

Role
of health promoters to help curb domestic violence

Health
promoters need to create more awareness on the evil of domestic violence on how
it affects not only the woman but the children and even the society at large. Also
more research needs to be carried out the causes of domestic in the society so
as understand and find better ways to stop domestic violence. As health promoters
our focus is on preventive measures and I feel we should focus more on finding
out to prevent domestic violence from occurring at all.

 

 

WAYS OF ASSISTING VICTIMS OF
VIOLENCE

Counseling

Counseling
should be provided for victims of domestic violence to help them heal psychologically
and emotionally. In the case of Dr Perputual ,Mbanefo she found out despite
trying over and over again on her parents orders to make her marriage work, the
psychological impact of the abuse meant that could no longer any king of
intimacy with husband. Victims need help to be able to overcome the
psychological impact of being abused.  

Creation
of support group system

There
is need to create support group system to help victims of domestic violence. This
can go a longer way to victims when they know they have people who can support
them and they are not in this world even when their families sometimes choose
not to support them. Just like the case of Mbanefo she did not have the support
of her family but she was able to Hope house a small shelter for domestic
violence. We need more across the whole of Nigeria to help more victims of
domestic violence.

Help
victims to be economically independent.

Victims
who are not economically independent can be introduced into skills acquisition
program such as tailoring, bead making, bag making, decoration, baking and
others to help them acquire skills that will help them to economically
independent. Soft loans can also be provided for them by the government to help
them start up their business. This is important because most victims of
domestic violence have no source income that why they remain in abusive
marriages.

Do
not criticize them

We
should not criticize victim of domestic violence by telling them didn’t you see
the warning signs. We should show care to them and understand that people who
have been experiencing domestic violence have often been manipulated, broken
down, berated and have their self-esteem crushed. They need to be shown love
and care and know they are not blame.

  

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